If you or your partner went through rehab, what be your relationship like once rehab be complete? My bf is an alcoholic and addict and is on a waitlist for a rehab middle. He went through rehab several years ago but then relapsed, but he unambiguously knows deeply about what to expect near his treatment. He keeps saw that he doesn't know what will be in store for us and our relationship once he get out. He says that the ending time he went through rehab he saw profusely of relationships split up. But my feeling is that a great deal of these relationships split up because their partner also had a drinking/drug problem and didn't hand over up their habit for the other party. In my case it's different because this time he would be coming home to an environment beside no drinking or drugs. He is worried that he will be "weighed down" by any problems that I might own when he comes out. (I do have some medical issues. )If anybody could put in the picture me about their own experience I sure would be grateful, ty.

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"Ironically, the months following intensive treatment can put more strain on a family unit than years of chronic alcohol abuse. About 25 percent of marriage break up within a year of one partner's joining AA, say Barbara McCrady, Ph.D., clinical director of the Rutgers Center for Alcohol Studies. She cites three reasons:

o Traditional AA protocol call for meetings -- lots of them. "Spouses normally say, 'First I lost him to alcohol, very soon I've lost him to AA,'" says McCrady. The alcoholic's reliance on fellow program member, rather than family circle, can foster considerable resentment.

o Some families own for years blamed all of their difficulties on the alcoholic's addiction. Only when the drinker is no longer drinking do they realize that long-established alcohol problems do not newly vanish overnight.

o Families that remain intact despite a member's drinking own worked out their own ways to remain a family part. "They've reallocated responsibilities, roles, and chores, and the family functions pretty resourcefully," McCrady says. "Now there's this party who is sober and wants to reestablish a position surrounded by the family." But the nearest and dearest may be hesitant if the alcoholic have tried -- and failed -- to stay sober surrounded by the past."

Here are things that I notice in the rooms over the years:

- There is a shifting contained by the dynamics, many relationships do not survive this shift.

- AA & NA meeting are like junior elevated or soap operas with relatives hooking up or breaking up on a whim, recurrently worse than Friday nights at the local pole.

- AA/NA members are provoked to only be around other member. This is a standard cult tactic, the other members don't want anyone chitchat sense with the tentative member. Non-members are call "normies" or "earth people".
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- AA's founder, Bill Wilson, be a notorious womanizer and things haven't really changed.
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- Bill Wilson built excuses into the program: "Don't nag me/question me or I'll drink again."
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- The program treats everyone as if they are children and make it easy to revert to childish behavior.

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